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Frequently asked questions: Being a Host Home

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Being a Host Home is a powerful way to support and show love to families in times of crisis. Here are some of the most common questions we get when it comes to hosting. If you have a question we didn’t answer here, please contact us and we’ll be sure to get you an answer right away.

Why are families referred/use SFFC?
Parents come to Safe Families for many different reasons. Our biggest reasons for referrals in DC are medical instability, homelessness, and general lack of supports. For example, if a parent needs to be hospitalized but has no one to care for her/his children, they can reach out to Safe Families for support. The whole goal of Safe Families to is surround families who lack supports so they can get back on their feet and cope with difficult life situations.

What do I have to do before I can be a Host Home?
Every Host Home first fills out our standard volunteer paperwork and an application, and then complete a FBI Background and Child Protection Registry check. While we’re waiting for your CPR check to come back (it takes up to a month), you attend a 6-hour training where we cover the basics of hosting, how to care for a child who has been through a hard situation, and general child safety procedures. After your training, one of our staff members will come to your house to see your home and discuss your hosting preferences. We work hard to ensure every hosting is a good fit, both for the family we’re serving and for you. All forms and more detailed information can be found here.Safe Families video

Do I have to be married to host?
Nope! You can be married or single, live alone or have roommates. We ask people to think creatively about our hosting arrangements- you don’t always have to have an extra room, or stay at home during the day. We bring a network of volunteers around every host home to support you so you don’t feel alone throughout this process.

Do I have to have an extra room/bed to host?
You don’t have to have an extra room to host. For respite hosting (1-4 prearranged days a month) you don’t need an extra room or even a bed (we’ll find an air mattress). For longer placements, a child needs his/her own bed.

Can I work full time while hosting? Where do children go during the day?
You don’t have to be stay at home to host, in fact, most people don’t. Children either attend school during the day, or we work with centers to provide daycare. We can also help you develop a plan with our transportation team to assist with pick-ups and drop-offs.

How long do children stay with host families?
Nationally, the average stay is 45 days, however, we see multiple types of hosting arrangements. Sometimes a family is just looking for respite care, which is 1-4 prearranged days a month so that they can get a break and take care of other areas that need their attention. Other times, families need a Host Home for a few weeks or months. The length of stay depends on the family’s goals and how long it may take to achieve them. We always contact host families prior to the placement and explain the situation them to see if they are comfortable and able to host a child at that time. We give families as much information as possible (including estimated length of stay) before they commit to hosting.

How do children get to/from school or daycare?
It is the Host Home’s responsibility to care of the child’s needs while they are staying in their home, and this includes attending school. We try to place children with families close to where their school is, but sometimes that’s not possible. That’s why we have a team of volunteers willing to help provide transportation to and from school to give the host families a break, when needed.

What happens legally while I host the children?
Biological parents retain all their legal rights during the hosting arrangement- that’s part of what makes Safe Families so great. However, Host Homes are also given short-term legal guardianship and medical waivers so they can care for children in the case of an emergency. We have all the legal forms to protect families and children from harm.DC127_Foster_Adopt_Parents

What happens if I have an overnight trip scheduled? Or a vacation?
Everyone has things planned and we certainly don’t want you to rework your entire schedule in order to host. There are a few different options that primarily depend on your comfort level and the nature of your trip. If you and the children’s parents are willing, you are able to take host children on vacations and trips. If this isn’t something you’re able to do, we have secondary Host Homes that can assist you while you are away. They can host children until you return from your trip. We also record all pre-planned vacations that you may have in order to plan and work around them as much as possible.

Who can babysit?
You can provide your own babysitter or use ones that we already have. All of our babysitters do get a background check through an instant system. We can also use other background checks if they have done one in the past (i.e. work at a school, volunteer with a children’s ministry). If you know of friends or family members who would like to babysit, we are happy to background check up to 3 of them for free. After that it’s $15.00 per babysitter for the background check. Again, if you don’t know people who could babysit, we have a list of awesome people who are willing to help out in times of need.

Can I take the children I host to church?
We work to respect all religious preferences of the families we serve. When we explain Safe Families, we’re sure to explain that we recruit through churches and we ask the parents if they are comfortable with this and with their child attending church. We expect Host Homes to honor the preference and requests of parents, but do not frequently have situations where parents are uncomfortable with children attending church.

Can I request to host within a certain age range?
Yes- in fact, this is something we ask you about when we visit your home. We want the best hosting arrangement for both the child and you, and so it’s important to us that you feel comfortable. We also provide training, so if you’re uncomfortable with a certain age range because you don’t know how to care for a young child or a teen, we’re happy to teach you.

Do I have to be able to take more than one child?
We work really hard to keep siblings together, so if you can host more than one child at a time, please do. However, we have plenty of situations where being able to take one child is incredibly needed. Being able to host more than one child is not required.photo (65)

What about costs related to hosting? Is there a stipend?
All of our Host Homes are done on a purely volunteer basis, but we work very hard to provide a lot of support so that you’re never alone. We have supplies and clothes on hand so that when your hosting starts, we can help set you up. In the past we’ve also had volunteers bring meals at the beginning and throughout placements, donate gift cards for date nights, babysit for free, and donate services like hair care. You can also always be honest to your Family Coach about what support you need, and we’ll do our best to find it.

Who do I talk to if I have a problem while I’m hosting?
Each Host Home is assigned a Family Coach, and the Family Coach is there to make sure that you have the support you need, that the children remain safe, and that the children’s parents have what they need to move forward. Your Family Coach will check in with you on a regular basis, and we work hard to match Coaches and Host Homes who attend the same church.

We hope we answered your questions, but in case you still have some more or just want to talk to one of our staff about being a Host Home, you can contact us here.

And if you’re interested in taking the next step in hosting, click here for more details!

We’re hiring!

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There are a lot of great things happening with DC127 – and we need some help.

We’re hiring an Outreach and Program Coordinator and looking for a Summer Intern to join our team. If you or someone you know is interested in applying, please have them email us their cover letter and resume at info@dc127.org and put the position name in the subject line.

Outreach and Program Coordinator: DC127 is partnering with Safe Families and DC Child and Family Services Agency to bring the Safe Families program to DC. Safe Families focuses on providing support for families in crisis so that the children never have to enter foster care in the first place. We’ll be sharing more about the program and how you can get involved, but first we’re looking for someone to help kick it off.

Summer Intern: We solemnly swear that as the DC127/ District Church intern you will never go get coffee (unless you’re needing a personal caffeine boost). Rather, you’ll be working directly with the Director and with the future Outreach and Program Coordinator to accomplish DC127’s mission. You’ll get exposure to non-profit operations and management, urban justice, child welfare, and community organizing.

It’s also important to us that any intern achieves professional goals, so we are happy to shape the internship depending on the person’s skills. This can be a part-time or full-time internship. The deadline to apply for the Summer Intern position is May 5th, 2014.

If you have any networks or groups that you could share these openings with, we would appreciate it. Stay tuned for more announcements about Safe Families and what we’re doing this summer!

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DC127 staff and volunteers after a long and crazy day at Foster the City.

A DC127 story: ‘Yeah, let’s do it’

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Throughout the week, we’re sharing more about DC127 and our mission to reverse the foster care wait list. While today’s story isn’t about traditional foster care, it is about churches working together and a family opening up their home for an amazing young woman and her daughter – which is what we’re here for. This week, we’re specifically looking for 46 people to commit to being monthly supporters of DC127’s mission. Will you join us and help make more stories like this one? Read more about what we’re doing in our first and second posts of the week.

Just about two months ago, DC127 Founder Amy Graham was put in touch with Hafsatu and her one-year-old daughter Nahla. They were facing a rough time, and as a teen, Hafsatu’s options were limited. As it became clear that Hafsatu and Nahla needed a temporary home, we reached out to DC127’s church network. We were overwhelmed by how God moved and the support that poured in from churches across the city as people donated baby supplies and support. Within an hour and twelve minutes of the email being sent, Ben and Christie replied, offering their home as a safe place for Hafsatu and Nahla. It has now become a more permanent home where they both can thrive and Hafsatu can finish high school. Thank you all of you who have been a part of settling Hafsatu and Nahla through support, meals, prayer, and a lot of love!

Getting to know Ben, Christie, Hafsatu, and Nahla has been an honor, and we are incredibly grateful to call them friends. They sat down with us to share their story. Here you go:

So walk us through getting that first email. What was your thought process?

Christie: Well, Ben saw it first. I think I was in a meeting at work. He wrote me an email back.

Ben: I said, ‘This would be really cool to do, but there is no way we could actually do it, right?’ It was almost a dream or something, almost a joke.

Christie: And then I wrote back and I said, ‘No, we should definitely do that, right?’ We didn’t even call each other, we just texted a couple times and sent a couple emails and said, ‘Yeah, let’s do it.’

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Ben, Hafsatu, Nahla, and Christie

Backing up a little bit, where did your original interest in opening up your home or potentially fostering come from?

Ben: That’s a deep question. I spent a year abroad before I came here. I lived in Costa Rica, I spent some time in Haiti, and I was around orphanages a lot there and I remember being really heart broken by the idea of people not having families.

Christie: My parents did foster care when I was a kid, and so it was kind of always a normal thing growing up with that. I wouldn’t say that my desire for doing foster care is completely because of that, but I would say that’s probably a big part of it. I’ve also spent some time in different orphanages… and I’ve seen what it’s like for kids to not have families…It just makes me really sad to think of that.

What has been one of the best moments so far?

Ben: It was one of the first weekends you, Satu, were here, and we went to a movie together and everything was crazy, but in that evening, it felt normal, ‘Yeah, we’re going to a movie on a Saturday night and taking the bus.’ There wasn’t anything weird about it, and there was something about that that was really fun for me.

Hafsatu (Satu): I think the best moment for me so far is going to Pittsburgh to visit Christie’s family. I just enjoyed their whole family and getting to meet them. They were really sweet. I felt like I was loved and I felt like I was wanted there.

I felt like I was loved and I felt like I was wanted there.

Christie: I think my favorite moment so far was this past weekend when we went to Georgetown. We went to Georgetown Cupcakes, and then we went and walked around down by the water, and Ben’s host mom from Costa Rica was here…We all have such different backgrounds and stories, but to have everyone hanging out there together…It felt really normal.

Ben: I had this moment this weekend… I’m looking around and, to state the obvious, Christie and I are white, Satu and Nahla are African, and my host mom is from Costa Rica, but somehow this is all really normal. It’s a beautiful thing.

What have been some of the challenges as you integrate as a new family?

Christie: It’s been a really complex situation with paperwork. I remember one time, Satu, you told me that you felt like you were in the middle of a spider web, and really caught up in the midst of that.

I would say on a more personal level, though, a challenge is redefining what normal is, probably for all of us. It wasn’t normal for Satu two months ago to be hanging out with us on a Tuesday night and sitting around our dinner table. It wasn’t normal for her and it wasn’t normal for us. Just trying to figure out what it looks like to be a family and what it looks like to spend time together.

Ben: Just to add that, it’s also been a really awesome thing. I would add to that the schedules and the focus of your priorities [have been a challenge]…Before, Christie and I just had to just focus on ourselves, focus on our work, and focus on each other, and now we have a lot more things to think about.

Hafsatu: I think the most frustrating part was when I was trying to get the paperwork. I just thought it wasn’t possible and would be really hard. I mean, we still don’t have everything, but before I thought that it just wasn’t going to happen, but now I have hope and we’re making progress and we’re moving along.

Ben, his host mom from Costa Rica, Christie, Hafsatu, and Nahla

Ben, his host mom from Costa Rica, Christie, Hafsatu, and Nahla

You’re not in traditional foster care, but your situation is similar. Can you talk about what support you’ve received and how that has impacted your journey?

Christie: I think the support had been incredible. I have felt support over the past two months from our church community, DC127, and people that we have never even met, like several steps removed from people we even do know. It’s been a really a phenomenal thing. When we got back from Pittsburgh, for instance, our house was full, so full. There were so many things. It took over an hour to open and go through everything…Whether someone sends an encouraging email, or sends a check, or sends a gift card or something, it’s been a really powerful thing to see the body of Christ unite for this. And it really does make it clear that God is in this and God is all over this, and I think the support we’ve received from that body of people is really proven that to me.

It’s been a really powerful thing to see the body of Christ unite for this

Ben: The support from our church community has been fantastic – our friends, our small group, and like Christie said, even friends, of friends, of friends that have contributed. And on the other hand, DC127, I know it’s cheesy, but really, what you and Amy have done for us has been phenomenal… For all of us, it’s so brand new and none of us know what to expect or what’s going on and the fact that you and Amy have been there and you’ve been able to walk with us, each of us, and hold our hand through the process every step of the way has been amazing.

Hafsatu: I was just amazed at how supportive everyone was. Coming into this, I did not think it was going to be so great. I did not think I was going to have so many people write messages, and so many people trying to make us comfortable and try to make us feel at home… Even after starting school, Kristen got me a folder to put my papers in and just made it clear that she was thinking of me. John and Hannah got me two movie tickets and wrote me a sweet note saying they were thinking of me through my first week of school and they were praying for me. Everyone has just been really great.

Do you have anything to say to people who might be hesitant to bring teens in to their homes?

Ben: I’ll just be honest. I would say it’s been the most rewarding thing and the most challenging thing… For example, Nahla has only been on earth for a year so she doesn’t have a whole lot of prior things that she is bringing into it. Satu is a full adult, and we’re all full adults. We all have our backgrounds that we’re bringing into it and we’re trying to figure out how to match that up… It’s an amazing thing. It makes it more rewarding and it makes it more challenging.

Christie: It changes everything in a very beautiful way. I think that in order to be successful in having a teen in your home, from the little tiny bit that I’ve seen so far, it requires a lot of flexibility and a lot of open-mindedness. Everyone has to be able to respect and hear out everyone’s opinions. I love the idea of having a teen in the house because you do get a whole other set of perspectives and it’s really pretty great.

How has this impacted your faith?

Hafsatu: There’s a quote, I don’t know exactly how it goes, but it goes like ‘the hard times don’t last forever, good things are coming.’ These past two years have been really hard and while I was going through everything I had no faith that things were going to get any better and I thought I was just going to live that way forever. Then all of a sudden I got connected with Amy, and you, and Jennifer, and everything just started to fall into place and everything just started to get better. And now… I have faith that it does get better and better things are coming, you just have to wait on it.

Christie: I’ve never felt God to be as real as I’ve felt him to be in these past two months. I’ve just felt the presence of God in a way I haven’t before.

Ben: I would second that. Our pastor, Tommy, gave a sermon on this before all of this happened and I feel like it’s really come true. The more you test faith, the more faith God gives you… The more we lean on Him, the more he pushes back. I’ve really experienced that in a way I can’t describe.

I’ll just say one other thing. It’s kind of cheesy, but we really love you, Satu, and we’ve told you that, and that love came to us before Satu even arrived. We had a moment when we were getting our house ready and you guys were coming over and Christie and I looked at each and said, ‘It doesn’t even matter who walks through that door, we’re going to love her.’ I don’t know how else to explain that other than God. I don’t know how you completely fall in love with someone before you’ve even met them. That’s just a miracle. That’s a small glimpse of the kind of love God has for everyone and I feel like it’s a new avenue or a new world of love that I’ve never experienced before. It doesn’t really make any sense, but it’s there.

The more we lean on Him, the more he pushes back.

One last question, what’s been one of the funniest moments?

Christie: The first one that comes to me is when Satu was teaching me about her hair. [They all laugh] She was telling me about her hair and it was when I found out that she wore a wig, and I had no idea. She told me she found it in a bush outside near the train tracks. And that’s where her wig was from. And I thought it was amazing.photo 2 (6)

Hafsatu: Make sure to add that it was brand new, and it was in a package, and I washed it. I think Ben and Christie are just funny human beings. They have really corny moments, and they say some outrageous things. What was it?

Christie: Was it when I said drinking water from the fire hose?

Hafsatu: She said something about drinking water from a fire hose and I was just like, [gives a look and shakes her head]. They have these really funny things that they say that are really weird.

Ben: Can you just have a whole paragraph set aside about how funny we are?

Thank you to Hafsatu, Christie, and Ben for sharing your story and allowing us to walk with you.

One of our favorite things about this story is that it wasn’t just one church or one group of people supporting this family. Support came from several churches, and when we worked together as the people of God, beautiful things happened. Whether it’s through foster care or host homes, integrating families is tough, and it can be very challenging, but it’s exactly where we should be. 

Would you consider becoming a monthly donor and investing in DC127? Your support enables us to mobilize churches and recruit families, finding and supporting more homes for teens and children who need them.

And maybe you read Ben and Christie’s story and think God might be calling you to do something similar. We would love to talk to you about different ways to open your home and life through foster care, host homes, or mentoring. Email us at info@dc127.org or join us on April 23rd for our next Foster Care Information Night. 

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